If you've ever spent more than 5 minutes with me you know I am a romantic. Hardcore. I LOVE romantic comedies, tragic unrequited love stories, goofball films, and a good old fashioned tear jerker. I cannot even watch the end of "The Notebook" after that first time. **Spoiler ** To have her husband KNOW he cannot go on if she isn't in this world with him and so he climbs in bed with her and dies too.....?! CUE UGGGGGLY CRYING. I can't. I have had my heart broken and crushed more than lets say 3 times (that is a good bet), and I still believe in it. I want to find my lobster
- that's what Phoebe said in "Friends". See:
So, how does dating work while going forward with having a tiny human? I have no idea!!! hahaha! I am trying to figure this out. I went on a great date recently and really like him :) He's adorable, funny, passionate, and a whole bunch of other qualities I find attractive. I am looking forward to getting to know him. However, remember that theoretical timeline I spelled out? Yeah. I guess we'll see what my instincts tell me to do.
I am a pretty transparent person as far as communication goes, so I want to be super honest up front but I realize this is scary sometimes to people. Whether its being truthful on how busy my life really is, how I feel about eating breakfast after 12pm (which is not ok btw! :) ), or how I feel about them, people tend to like spacing information out I have found.
I imagine dropping this bombshell would definitely fall into the spacing out information category- but for how long? Like, do I casually say over dinner one night on date 5, lets say, "Hey- so just so you know, I'm about to start taking hormones so I can have a baby- but not your baby, cuz that's WAY to soon, but with a random donor's sperm, but don't worry he sounds awesome. Do you wanna stick around for that?" hahaahaha....Of course, I would explain the reasoning why behind all of this. Maybe I'll just slip them a card with this blog address on it.....Lordy. I reference "The Backup Plan" a lot lately. Watch this trailer. This movie is hilarious and it could happen. You never know.
We'll see how this new thing develops. It may be a non starter and then I'll just wait till after to start dating again....I have NO IDEA.
If you have any advice or have gone through this part, message me- I'd love to hear your thoughts.
*****UPDATE****** New guy was a non starter. Still in touch and amicable :) Moving forward!
***Update to the Update (end of March)*** Well, now I am not sure....we'll see where it goes and what happens I suppose. hmmmm.......